Caution in excusing and accusing others

A man, who was hurting and deeply wounded inside after his wife treacherously departed, was looked down on and told, "something drove her away." 

Would that same statement be made to a woman whose husband treacherously departs? Would it not be considered harsh and condemned as being judgmental? 

It is not "different" and the same care, concern, and compassion should be extended whether man or woman. 

Yes, something drove that person away = SIN!

But every man (person) is tempted, 

when he/she is drawn away of their own LUST, 

and enticed.

Then when lust hath conceived, 

it bringeth forth sin: 

and sin, when it is finished, 

bringeth forth death.

Do not err, my beloved brethren.

James 1:14-16

I do not post this to defend or condemn.  

We need to get back to judging with righteous judgment and not man's. Trying and weighing a matter out in the Spirit and not our own thoughts and surmisings. 

...their thoughts the mean while accusing or else excusing one another. Romans 2:15

We need to exercise great caution when excusing one while accusing another lest we excuse the guilty while condemning the innocent.  

Put it in God's hands and let Him sort it out.